I was given some really good advice many years ago: don't draw attention to your flaws, it makes people notice them.
For example: a fellow blogger I admire recently mentioned that she has always hated her nose. I don't think there is anything wrong with her nose, and it never stood out to me, but now I find myself looking at her nose.
Where am I going with this? This blog title is about high heels.
Okay - I am 6 feet tall and proudly wear high heels. I love them, they're gorgeous and make me feel good. My response to the all too frequent comments of "why do you wear heels when you're already so tall" was always "I'm tall with them or without them so it doesn't matter. I love them and am wearing them".
Why, oh why, do people think it is okay to comment on a tall woman's footwear choice? Why?! I'd never say to an overweight person "You're already so big, why wear leggings as pants which makes you look bigger?". I would NEVER say that, and am a bit embarrassed to have even typed it!
Lately I have been wearing only flats in my posts and am starting to feel self conscious about it. I would hate for other tall women, especially young women who may still be getting comfortable with their height, to think I don't wear heels or think that tall women shouldn't wear heels.
My reason for wearing only flats lately is because I have a chronic leg problem , which is currently more problematic than normal and wearing high heels exacerbates the pain (left leg pseudarthrosis with neurofibromatosis for all you Orthopaedic Surgeons and related medical professionals who I am sure follow my blog. Or not.). So thanks to a dodgy leg I'm in flats of late.
I hope to be back in my high heels soon and will be wearing them with pride! Of course, no one may have noticed that I've only been wearing flats...
Good post. Sound opinions. Yes, it's rude for people to comment on stuff like this.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that everyone should be entitled to choose whatever they want to wear. If I were allowed to wear women's clothes in public, I would -- and I'd be happier.
I hope you can find a way to wear what you are most comfortable in. Thank you for reading & taking the time to comment. x Allison
DeleteSo true that sometimes our flaws are only seen by us! Wear what you love and who cares what others think! I feel like everyone can have their own style and no one should care!
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Thanks Ruth! I am missing my heels & am looking forward to wearing them again. X Allison
DeleteRock those heels, Allison (unless your legs are sore or you just don't want to, of course)! You have as much right as anyone else to wear the things you love. I can't believe people make those comments to you! It's so rude and you're right, they wouldn't say that about other physical features ... but I do love your response. You deserve beautiful shoes just like anyone else xoxo
ReplyDeleteThank you! My silly leg is doing better so I'll be back in heels soon! X Allison
DeleteI'm sorry to hear about your chronic leg issue and I do hope that you get to be able to wear heels again soon! While I love heels and still wear them, I find myself gravitating toward flats more these days as well because of my bad back and also because they're SO comfortable. Another reason is that there are TONS of cobblestone streets and uneven walking places in Europe, and I honestly have no idea how people ever wear heels. I wore them with much fear and trepidation on public transport out to dinner the other night and thankfully did not bite the dust. In my 20s, I wore heels all the time which made me about 6'5-6'6. I felt so fabulous in them. I would always reply to those annoying questions about why I wore them at my height with a retort in the sassiest tone I could muster such as "Just because I'm tall doesn't mean I can't wear the shoes I want, thank you very much"! I'm a smidge more gracious with my retorts in my old age but will ALWAYS defend my right to wear heels. :)
ReplyDeleteI would be wearing flats on cobblestones too! As a Mama flats are more practical but I've been missing my heels.
DeleteYou made me laugh with "I'm a smidge more gracious with my retorts"... I've become more gracious too!! X Allison
Melissa from Suger Coat it Blog wears high heels all the time-she is 5'10 (like me) and she always looks fantastic. I think the secret is to own it. I have just found your blog from Styling You. Where do you buy your shoes? I go between a 10-11 depending upon the make but mainstream stores only go up to a 9-10. I love shoes but hate the buying process. Hope your leg gets better soon
ReplyDeleteHi Lisa! I'm so happy you found my blog! I buy my shoes from mainstream stores; I wear a size 10 but as sizes vary so much I have shoes which are sized from 9 - 11. This always makes me shake my head as my foot stays the same size!! It's just trial & error with fit. As I've become older & wiser I refuse to buy shoes which hurt my feet - there are comfy heels out there! X Allison
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